Gautama Buddha once said, “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” When you hear about self-esteem, you would usually think about the unpleasant feeling of low self-worth and embarrassment at the moment.
Self-esteem is a word unknown to many but we are living with it. It usually hit you the way hard when you eagerly want to share your feelings to someone but you can’t, because there is a fear in your mind that the society or the person will not accept you.
Intellectuals have divided self-esteem into two categories – lower and healthier. Healthier self-esteem gives birth to positivity and increases our courage to deal with the ups and downs of life. The lower self-esteem, as expected, gives birth to negativity and we can’t face the challenges that life throws at us.
Many won’t understand the true meaning of lower self-esteem and this is the reason people are becoming hushed day by day and they wither inside. Before I explain how to fight self-esteem, let me tell you about my experience in this regard.
I’ve experienced it. It feels like you’re dying inside to express yourself with whom you care, you want to do new things and take challenges but unfortunately, you can’t. This is all because of the negative thoughts circulating in the mind.
And gradually you become completely silent. With this silence, a voice inside you started forcing you to express your feelings to people and what you actually want to say. But you never bring those things out because of the fear that if you express some things, people will overlook it, which will end in a battle of heart and mind.
You want to express your thoughts to people but there is always a fear in your mind and it always stops you from expressing your thoughts. If you have low self-esteem, you reduce socializing, you don’t try new things, and avoid things you find challenging.
However, giving up is not the solution. You have to fight it till the last hope like me. I’m fighting hard against it and this is the reason I feel myself a better person – the one who is able to take challenges, who is able to express freely instead of thinking too much.
It took me nearly three years to overcome my low self-esteem but I’m not fully recovered. If I was then it means that I’m perfect but let me remind you that no one is perfect, everyone has some fearsome grudges and some guilt in them.
It requires a bit of work to overcome low self-esteem. Stop over-thinking, always remain positive, choose a supportive squad to spend time with, and face the challenges. It also involves developing and maintaining healthier emotional habits. These ways will provide you a great emotional and psychological return on your investment.
Stop comparing yourself to other people is a sure-fire way to start feeling crummy. Try to focus on your own goals and achievements. Nobody is perfect so always strive to be the best version of yourself. Always learn from your mistakes. Do what makes you happy. Try to schedule a little you-time every day.
As soon as you find yourself going down the path of self-criticism, gently note what is happening, be curious about it, and remind yourself, “These are thoughts, not facts.”
We are all born with infinite potential and equal worth as human beings. Therefore, with hard work and self-compassion, self-destructive thoughts and beliefs can be elapsed.
Taking the steps outlined above is a start in the effort to increase self-worth, or as Schiraldi says, to “recognize self-worth. It already exists in each person.”
These steps might seem complicated, but they’ll get easier with practice. As you begin to recognize the thoughts and beliefs that are contributing to your low self-esteem, you can counter them easily. As your self-esteem increases, your confidence and sense of well-being are likely to soar.